No one is interested in your happiness. Unless it benefits him more than you Our whole life is a game of lost happiness. It is a game in the tension between winning and losing. If we lose, it triggers the desire to win next time. win If we do, we want to know if we could do it again. Or take on the challenge of a loser, us to blow the profit.
Do you think this law applies only to winning and losing poker players and casinos? No, it applies to professional and partnership, for the world economy and politics. The law of eternal life game is the law of give and take, to the previously all efforts for a peaceful world where all people could be the same, have failed. And why? Because in the game of give and take must always be winners and losers. Or do you think there would be Olympic Games, when all could gain?
to the law of give and take the principle of selfless giving is in conflict. If you give someone always, you lose him as a partner in life game from which you could recover a bit. Unless he uses your help to create something that you want to remove him again.
As you see, is the basis of a funktionierenden Lebensspiels das Bekenntnis zum gesunden Egoismus. Oder, um es in einem größeren Rahmen zu sehen, das Bekenntnis zur freien Marktwirtschaft. Warum, denken Sie, "helfen" die reichen Länder der Welt den armen Ländern mit so großem Eifer? Doch nur, damit die armen Leute reich genug werden, um sich die Produkte kaufen zu können, die die reichen Länder ihnen verkaufen möchten.
Genauso funktioniert das Spiel in jeder Art von Partnerschaft: Wenn Sie glücklich sind, können Sie den Partner glücklich machen, damit er selbst glücklich wird und Ihnen davon wieder etwas abgeben kann. If the partner accepts only there is nothing you can recover what you need. The law of give and take, expires.
Maybe just that the reason that in our countries, every third marriage is divorced. Maybe. Maybe not. But it might not be so?
How is it possible at all, that everything that you have read here about give and take, or the selfishness and the "selfless help", just pure speculation. But maybe it provokes you to form your own opinion about it. Instead of all these things only to look at the way you have learned from your trainers of morality and good behavior so far.
To be happy and free means of eventually raising zadelka first, that everything in life has two sides. Only when we both know, we can opt for what we are really on the way to the happiness of use.
If you do not talk today with your children, the children will one day not to talk to you Our society is full of educators, moralists, authorities and know-alls. All of them will not tire of telling us a lifetime to teach about what is right and wrong and how we should behave.
The teachings are so constantly among us, and it is no wonder that many of us once they get a chance to behave exactly as they were brought up: as a smug, authoritarian, never erring parents, teachers and supervisors.
There are always two possibilities, experiences, suggestions and requests to pass: under threat or by persuasion. Knowledge is to teach someone by threatening to go to a position of authority, from one of the hierarchical top-down exercise of power, without giving the parties a real chance to develop their own, perhaps better views.
requires this method of influencing, that one has power and is replaced. To get them to the practitioner may not show any weakness. For as soon as the person behind the external authority detects the internal weaknesses, the authority is lost. means that people in authority should not tolerate any criticism of their decisions and opposition by threats or punishment possible to suppress the very beginning.
This strategy of influence is the foundation of classical education, how it is handled today still in many schools, families and companies. Parents teach their children by force with the formula: Tu, was wir dir sagen. Eines Tages wirst du erkennen, dass wir nur dein Bestes wollten. Vorgesetzte unterbinden nicht selten Einwände und Ideen der Untergebenen mit dem Argument: Ich habe das schon so gemacht, da haben Sie noch in den Windeln gelegen. Hören Sie also auf mit Ihren verrückten Ideen.
Es mag schon sein, dass Kinder tatsächlich später im Leben erkennen, dass ihre Eltern in manchen Dingen recht gehabt haben. Manche Eltern allerdings bedauern, dass sie ihren Kindern früher nicht öfter die Chance gegeben haben, auch recht zu haben. Oder, um es anders zu betrachten: Wenn Sie heute nicht mit Ihren Kindern reden, werden die Children do not talk to you if you later long time afterwards.
Hierarchical, authoritarian or conviction partnership principle, which are the two basic forms for people dealing with each other. That means a one-sided information, the other communications in both directions. Linked to the tension that is necessary for any kind of creativity. Whoever lets only his own opinion and experience, has ceased to learn.
The constant search for happiness but always requires a new impetus, from which we can learn to solve problems better and better, to us in such circumstances.
