The concepts of good men, which many claim to be from us, heard the warning: "If no pity feels, is hard-hearted. "A claim that the heart is stirred and guilt aroused. And nothing makes people so docile as the fear in the eyes of the world around a good person to be.
Here it behaves similarly to the pity as with . admonition to the charity you know: "Love your neighbor as yourself" as yourself .. "presupposes that we love ourselves first before we can love someone else an invitation to healthy selfishness. . What reason have so selfish to feel guilty?
is to show sympathy, the admonition mitzuleiden with someone else that is doing worse than us. We are supposed to him suffer. If we are fine, if we are happy on their own, should we deny our self-confidence and force us to suffering and sacrifice.
Is not it interesting that the people who give us this message, most are also those who give us their account number is known, to which we should pay our guilt in hard cash? In this manner we will benefit from our sacrifice, not even to face. Instead of experiencing the success and joy of our pity yourself, to take claim for themselves. So what we really do for someone who needs help? We use our sacrifice as an excuse for themselves not for the to do it.
What good is it to ourselves and therefore the person in need, provided we suffer with him? It seems that we use neither him nor us. If we suffer with someone, we just support him in his suffering. We comfort him with it, but we do not show him what experiences we ourselves have made to overcome our own suffering.
We conduct ourselves as parents who prevent their children with excessive care enough, even to learn from mistakes rather than to exemplify how to solve problems. Of course, these parents sometimes suffer if the child suffers a defeat. But it helps you not better by the encouragement to try again rather than suffer with him, thereby strengthening his own suffering?
Everyone that is doing badly, has-as we all change-always two ways of something: either he will strengthen his forces and helps himself, or he makes from the compassion of other related and never learn to help themselves.
You probably say, "But there are so many people in the world, those who need our help to be helped after all.." A strong argument. But why not go out and really help them? Instead of your guilt with an anonymous donation ransom, neither you nor the benefit something that perhaps needs your help.
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